Okay. I get it. You never forget your first love. First loves are usually consuming and overwhelming, and “epic,” and you think you’re going to be with that person for the rest of your life… BUT Chuck and Blair started dating when they were in high school. When you’re a teenager, you think you’re invincible and that you know everything, and it’s hard to think that you can ever be in another relationship. I just feel like Blair and Chuck (and Serena for that matter) are so stuck in the past that they’re limiting themselves to amazing opportunities. Dan and Nate seems like the only ones who understood that, and they’re living their lives, whether that may be finding new loves or exploring new career paths.
I’m 22… about the same age as everyone on the show. I get that this is a TV show, and that life is never what the movies or what television programs portray them to be. However, when the writers repeatedly pit Chuck against Blair and vice versa, it just becomes damaging. It’s my personal opinion that one should not solely rely on a significant other for happiness, but rather enhance it. It’s been said again and again that Blair lost her true self— Chuck brought her into a darkness that she didn’t know how to be happy again, she compromises her morals to help Chuck gain his empire back, she sells out for a tiara, etc etc… I don’t understand how anyone sane would want to be in a relationship knowing that he/she would forever remain inadequate. I don’t understand how the writers can say that Blair and Dan are equals in their relationship and that they help each other grow, and disregard all of that in one single episode. It makes NO sense. What message are they trying to convey? Obviously, expressed through Blair, she was behind the scenes with Chuck. I thought this was Gossip Girl, a modern show where teens and young adults alike can watch and relate to… not Mad Men.
I just hate that Blair’s growth as a person has been stomped on. Unless the writers use the cop-out excuse “Oh, that was Dan’s role in Blair’s life. He was essential in Blair’s maturity because she was not mature enough to be in a committed relationship with Chuck.” Bullshit, if you ask me. Blair can be a 3-dimensional person, and I felt like we saw her be like that when she was with Dan—independent, strong, fierce. With Chuck, however, it’s always one-dimensional… she’s vulnerable, like she said. She chases him, he rejects her, he chases her, she rejects him… it’s a vicious cycle. Is it the chase that they’re addicted to? Maybe next season we see Blair chasing Chuck for 10 episodes, and in the series finale they get married and then it’s THE END… otherwise, we would be stuck with another game of cat and mouse. It just gets tiring. It’s just juvenile.
As for the DAIR build-up, I’m disappointed that Dan and Blair didn’t get a proper break-up at the very least. Good job writers. I would like to think that they get their closure next season, but who knows. They portray Dan as someone who would never get his happy ending, forever labeled as “Lonely Boy,” which is ironic, because out of everyone, he is the most human. He is the most relatable. He pined for Blair for the longest time because all he wanted was for her to be happy, regardless whether who her suitor was. I think I would have rather have Blair tell him like it is a la episode 4x18, than have her lead on Dan. It’s just unfair to him, and he deserves to be happy. What was the point of all this Dair buildup? Just another way to prolong the Chair arc storyline? I’m sorry- but when you plan a specific ending, the journey leading up to it always gets fucked up… Life is never the way you planned it to be. Realistically, the things you originally want turn out to be fleeting phases. Blair, Dan, Chuck, Serena, and Nate are in their early 20s. I’m in my early 20s. Do I know exactly what the fuck I want? No… but they’re starting to fall into place with every life experience.
I once read that life lessons have a funny way of repeating themselves, i.e. continuing to lose things (irresponsibility), dating a series of similar guys/gals that are bad for you, getting fired from jobs, etc etc… The only way from preventing these things from happening again is to commit to change. Now correct me if I’m wrong.. but how many times have we seen Blair constantly get hurt by a man she supposedly loves? Exactly.
So really- what are the writers trying to say by reuniting Blair with Chuck? That it’s okay to be completely vulnerable and a lesser version of yourself when you’re in love with someone that you can’t help being in love with? I get that you can’t help who you love— but when you start to compromise yourself, can you honestly say that love is enough to save you?
so if Chuck ends up paying the dowry
it will mean that he will be going directly against Blair’s wishes (even if it is just to correct whatever massive atrocity he commits)
and they will never be equals again
never have their ~fresh start
basically putting another dent in that failship (which is already rotting at the bottom of the ocean, let’s be honest)
welp, so Dair till the end then
BLAIR WALDORF TOLD CHUCK BASS
THAT HE DOESN’T HAVE HER HEART ANYMORE
IT BELONGED TO SOMEONE ELSE
THAT SOMEONE BEING